Motherhood

  • Please Don’t Make Me Do “Stuff”: 5 Effective Steps To Help Encourage Your Child To Do Chores.

    Hey Mama’s! How many of us have a “Please Don’t Make Me Do Stuff Kinda Kid?” I personally have two. So that’s twice the yelling and twice the headache. I recently found that these five easy steps have encouraged my children to actually want to do the chore.

    First thing First, No child is too young for chores. Whether it be picking up their toys to prepping dinner, NO CHILD SHOULD BE EXEMPT. WE live in the house together we take care of the house TO-GETHER. Often times, children feel that a chore is a type of punishment, but adding a little excitement can simply change the narrative.

    So First,

    1. Avoid any yelling, screaming, or nagging. If they are distracted by watching TV, On YouTube, or playing video games simply remove the distraction.
    2. Praise Them. I cannot stress to y’all how far a “Thank you soo much you are doing a really good job” can go.
    3. Times UP! What kid doesn’t like a game? Get a Timer set it and let them race against the clock.
    4. Nobody is perfect Sis. Don’t expect them to be perfect. Try not to go behind them to redo it. They need to feel confident, capable, and trusted to do so.
    5. Chart it up! Chore charts for the win. Visuals are always a good thing. Once they can see what they are actually doing makes it all worth the while.

    As parents, we feel obligated to pick up where our children lack or left. One thing I found helpful when guiding my children through a chore is to be present throughout. I found out the minute I left their side they’ll often leave the job undone. It is important that we teach our children to be consistent. Once they’ve become consistent enough to follow through with a chore until completed that chore have now become age-appropriate.

    Keep in mind, all children develop at different paces so here’s a list of chores our children should be able perform:

    10 and Under: (I focused on this age group because its most relate-able.)

    Ages 1-3

    • pick up toys.
    • Put shoes away
    • Brush teeth with assistance

    Ages 4-6

    • All chores above
    • Make up bed
    • Learn proper ways of washing during bath-time
    • Dress themselves
    • Make a bowl of cereal
    • Clear Table after meals
    • Unload dryer
    • Water Plants

    Ages 7-10

    • All chores above
    • Make Snacks and Simple meals ( Ex. scramble eggs, french toast, tuna salad)
    • Load dishwasher
    • Sweep floor, vacuum
    • Start a load of laundry
    • Fold/put laundry away
    • Assist with dinner

    So there you have it mommies, Lets prepare our little humans to be self- sufficient and responsible. I know for mines its rewarding to see them exciting about actually doing something and contributing in the home.

  • Lions, Tigers, and Unicorn Pumpkins?!

    Getting out the house in a timely manner can be a hassle with children, especially mine (NO CAP) luckily Hubby job sponsored Employee Day at Zoo Atlanta this year so it didn’t take much to get them out the house.

    Weekends are usually a thing for me, as a child I don’t remember being in the house at all unless the weather prohibited. So I always aim to do the same with my children.

    We started our Day with an complimentary all you can eat breakfast buffet!

    Here’s a Recap:

    We started at the Children’s Zoo.
    (QUE Desiigner -Panda)
    Getting hands on with the animals was definitely a hit!


    MEANWHILE

    Junie was catching some much needed rest.

    Next Stop, The African Safari.

    If you guys follow me on IG (www.instagram.com/tiyonnatanikia), I posted some very interesting footage on stories. LMAO

    Ever got to touch an elephant? Well, they have an exhibit on what the skin actually feels like.

    Interesting enough the Giraffe was a family favorite!


    Although the Lions and Tigers were all afternoon napping we did get to see some bears walking the prowl. We, definitely enjoyed family time well spent.

    Until, next time ZOO ATLANTA!

    October Family Homework

    On Sunday, we had to be creative and decorate a paper pumpkin. We searched through pinterest for ideas and although we couldn’t any decorated paper pumpkins we decided to freestyle our own.

    How did we do?

    Here’s everything we used. Most items were purchased from Dollar Tree.
    Here’s the finished product. Our Unicorn Pumpkin!
    Mommy like to keep things clean and simple so I’m happy we all came to a happy medium.

  • The Married Single Mother: Why Some Women Feel This Phenomenon Is All Too Common.

    So as many may feel that Marriage can bring families closer together and strengthen a union, as it may, but for some it can also challenge a couples ability to understand one’s feelings without being objective.

    How can one be objective? Well, when you can clearly see the issues that may be arising, however, you are not influenced by the opinions or feelings in considering what are actual facts. Now, many more of us can relate because this does not only happen in marriages, but also in relationships, partnerships, and maybe even in friendships.

    With two adults living in the same household, one can easily single-handedly feel like they are carrying a heavier load. This Phenenomon usually arise in woman and can come from a multitude of events.

    Here are some examples:

    For the last seven years I fall into category 3. Eight-five percent of the time after I went back to work this had been our norm. Now I can I also relate to SAHMs as well because I was one, moving 800 miles away from home I didn’t really have a choice then. Although this lifestyle has been a regular for me doesn’t make it any easier. Here’s why, My family grew, finances increased and circumstances have changed. So I am here to talk ways that Our Men can boggle down and not fall in the statistic of men believing” Its the Woman’s Job.”

    What are some suggestions that can prevent these feelings:

    1. Work together to come up with what works in your family. Tiredness? That falls on everyone beside the feeling of restlessness what else can you offer besides financial stability.
    2. Avoid negating ones feelings and concerns. In society, vulnerability is often a common issues. If they are open enough to express their feelings be open enough to listen and consider them.
    3. Alternate household chores. Constantly doing the same chore over and over can be overwhelming. Try sharing those chores so when one is down and out it doesn’t take much for the other adult to pick it right up.
    4. Give one a another a “Break” for Self Care. Self-Care is a subject of its own.

    Guys, how often is the chores left while one parent is sick? Heck! Sometimes this is the only time “if” that parent is able to relax in some sort of way. Its take a lot for the sole parenting individual to let down their hair and take a break. These breaks usually become prevalent when they fall ill. DON’T LET THAT BE THE CASE! Not to mention the extra-curricular activities, practices, and sports our children partake in. All these things can be a lot for any individual.

    Stop rectifying whose more physically tired than the other, Now like I mentioned earlier ‘The Unbalanced Career Couple’ has two working adults doesn’t matter if one is part-time, one is over night this is that decision was based upon the dynamics of the relationship so that should not be the main topic of discussion. Everyone will be tired when raising our future, working on bettering our future, and so fourth. Let’s all chip in to make this time every bit more enjoyable.

    To Conclude, there is no wrong feeling if a married woman or any woman feel like a single parent. This feeling to shall pass once kids grow older and dynamics continue to change but for the now, let go of those egos and in-sensitivities. Life Happens I get it, well all do. But, life doesn’t always have to be over-bearing and over-whelming. As the saying goes…

    Happy Wife, Happy Life!